Friday, May 7, 2010

How To Date a Guy that Likes Another Girl

Dating is a complicated business. If the guy you have set your eyes on likes another girl, it’s even more challenging. Being part of a love triangle can get messy, but there is light at the end of this complicated mess. If you want to stand by your man but you feel his affections may not be completely devoted to you, here’s what you need to do.

  1. Be honest. Talk to your man. Ask him what he truly feels. If he is seriously attracted to another girl, don’t force yourself on him. Find out where you stand. If he tells you you’re the one he wants even though he has some feelings for another person, there’s a way around that.
  2. Avoid being in the company of the other girl. Limit the time alone that your guy has with the competition. The more time he spends alone with her, the more likely the feelings will get developed.
  3. Be interested in your man. Give him the attention that he needs. He’s dating you now for a reason so he must like something about you. But keep in mind that you shouldn’t have to put out just to keep a man. If that’s all he wants from you, he’s not worth your time.
  4. Trust your mate, but keep an eye on the other girl. All women have a radar about who’s encroaching on their territory. If yours acts up, pay attention. If you notice your man frequently talking about this other girl or wanting to spend time with her, or finding ways to include her in your activities together, be warned. Trust your man when he says that he’s being faithful but don’t turn a blind eye to obvious signs.
  5. If the man you want to date is currently with someone else, have some respect for yourself and the relationship. Steer clear. Don’t make the moves. After all, if the man cheats on his current partner just to be with you, how do you know that he won’t do the same thing to you later on if he finds someone else more interesting? It’s just not good karma to sow seeds of discontent.
  6. Have some pride. If your man has lost interest in you and wants to move on, let him. It’s his loss. Unless you are married and you have children together, it’s better to cut your losses now than to endure heartache. Tell yourself that you deserve a man who will love and only choose you. You should be the priority and no other woman.
  7. If you really like the guy even though he’s interested in another girl, remember that you can’t always trust feelings. Emotions come and go and are often based on circumstances. Sometimes, you may end up idealizing the man but you may come to realize that he’s not all that great once he becomes yours. You may feel a deep passionate connection, but strong emotions like that may not always be accurate. Date other people and spend some time in the company of other friends and see how your feelings hold up. It may just be that you like the challenge of what’s unavailable to you.
  8. Break up with him if he decides he wants to go with someone else. It’s just not worth your pride and self respect to hang around someone who doesn’t want you. You deserve someone better.

How To Date Someone in the Military



So you love a man in uniform and just think military men are sexy and exciting. If you want to date someone in the military, here’s what you need to do.

  1. Be aware that maintaining a relationship with someone in the military can be very difficult. People in the service move a lot constantly or may be deployed to another country for several years before coming home. If you date a soldier, you will need to accept that his country comes first before you. He’ll likely miss many special occasions such as Christmas, anniversaries and even the birth of your first child together as he’s off defending the country.
  2. Assess your personality. To date someone in the military, you have to be more patient than most. You have to be independent since you’ll be left to your own devices and possibly even raise a family all on your own. You cannot be clingy or needy. You need to be able to trust your man whenever he’s away from you. You have to be subservient to some degree because his needs will have to come first several times during the relationship. Can you dote on him for the time that he is home? Are you willing to give up your job every time you have to move around?
  3. Accept that you will have a long distance relationship. There will be extended periods of time wherein you are apart, at least six months at a time. You will need to rely on mail, email, Skype and phone calls to keep your love alive. If you are an out of sight out of mind kind of girl, don’t enter into the relationship.
  4. If you feel you can handle the above criteria and you are a civilian looking for a man in uniform, check online sites. The Internet is a great resource to meet people.
  5. Live near a military base. You’re bound to meet someone in uniform if you live near a training camp, a military installation, a navy port or army base. Go where the boys hang out, such as the local bar, karaoke bar and restaurant. Be visible. If you’re available, someone will approach you.
  6. Don’t rush the relationship. Although you may feel you need to seize the moment because your man will ship off to war in a few weeks, really get to know each other well before being intimate and being so serious. You don’t want to be just another girl in one of the many ports around the world. He may be looking for a good time, but if he’s looking for something special, let him wait.
  7. Send him care packages when he’s away. Send pictures, but nothing too raunchy. The rest of the boys may take a peek Include his favorite snacks or a memento from something of your last time together.
  8. Dating someone in the military can be interesting, exiting but stressful. However, if you find your true love wearing a uniform, take a chance!

HOW TO GET HIM PROPOSE TO YOU

Okay: you have found Mr. Right and you want him to propose. We all know that getting a guy to pop the question can present a challenge. As a savvy woman it is important to have a few tricks up your sleeve. There are ways to make him start thinking about your future together. Sometimes all your man needs is a clear picture of what your life together holds. Here are a few steps to get him to propose. Think of it as a paint-by-numbers for that perfect picture.

Step 1: Move in together. Now is the time for the two of you to go apartment hunting or, better yet, look for your dream home. Let him know that you want to wake up next to him every day for the rest of your life. If you are already living together, moving is a chance to really combine your lives. Show your commitment by giving up your shoebox full of old love letters. Maybe he will even get rid of the bean bag chair that leaks beans. Plus, we all know how fun it can be to play house.

Step 2: Discuss your family planning. Let him know whether you want 3.5 kids and a dog or if you want to be fun and child free for the rest of your life. Maybe have a babysitting date. Borrow a niece or nephew and get him to help with a zoo date. This will be a great way to bring up the subject of children and to see your man in action. Make sure that you are on the same page about when in your life you want to start your family. If you are not ready and he is anxious, just remind him about how fun babymaking practice can be!

Step 3: Start talking about your dream honeymoon. Compare ideas about where you want to go. Bring home some travel brochures, or get online. Get him thinking about all the fun things that you will be doing during the first week as husband and wife. Guys aren't that interested in our dream wedding, but a man who is in love with you is guaranteed to get excited about the honeymoon - especially if you're going to have a white wedding.

Whether he's been holding back out of fear of commitment, or if he just isn't picking up on your subtle hints, these three easy steps are sure to get your man to pop the question.

Get ready, girls, because the next words you will be saying are, "I do".

HOW TO FIND YOUR HUSBAND

Every little girl has thoughts of her wedding day and her dream husband. But when reality hits and the age clock is ticking, it may seem like this dream is truly just a fantasy. If you've given up on going out to bars and on blind dates, and you're looking for that one Mr. Right, you may not be sure where to start. Follow these 5 easy tips to finding that one special someone you just might one day call ‘your husband'.

  1. Make yourself available. You must know by now that your dream husband doesn't exist in your current group of friends. So you've got to get out there and meet new people. If a friend asks you to a party, go. If there's an extra ticket for the ball game, go. Even your local church probably has a good inventory of husband-worthy men. You just have to put yourself out there. You never know who you might meet.
  2. Try online dating. Although you may think these sites are bogus, many are starting to get a great name as match-making sites. E-Harmony is a popular one, but any site that really considers your personality and your preferences for a mate is a good choice. The longer the application process, the better. After all, you want them to find that perfect someone, don't you?
  3. Throw a party. A great way to meet new acquaintances is through a friend. So throw a low-key backyard barbecue, and ask you friends to bring some friends. Chances are, if they're friends with your friends, you'll have a lot of shared interests with your new-found party guests. And social outings where there is little stress or pressure to ‘hook-up' are actually ideal places to do so. There is strength in numbers, and there are husbands in crowds!
  4. Go to where men go. Okay, this may seem a bit desperate but just don't make it look obvious. Consider places where you might find men and visit these places. Take up fishing off the local peer, walk you dog in the park, or join a co-ed baseball league. Find a place where men enjoy physical activities. And hey, any man that is active and enjoys the outdoors is a good catch, right?
  5. Volunteer. Another great place to find good men is at a non-profit organization. A man who is willing to volunteer has a good heart and is not selfish - a perfect husband! Search your local newspaper and online classified ads for agencies looking for help, and you'll definitely meet someone new.
  6. Whether you meet him today or next year, you'll know when you've met your real love. He'll have a good heart, a giving soul and will be interested in you. Don't just settle for the next guy to walk past your cubicle - find someone who you really share interests with and work on that relationship to see if it will transpire into a loving marriage.