Dating is a complicated business. If the guy you have set your eyes on likes another girl, it’s even more challenging. Being part of a love triangle can get messy, but there is light at the end of this complicated mess. If you want to stand by your man but you feel his affections may not be completely devoted to you, here’s what you need to do.
- Be honest. Talk to your man. Ask him what he truly feels. If he is seriously attracted to another girl, don’t force yourself on him. Find out where you stand. If he tells you you’re the one he wants even though he has some feelings for another person, there’s a way around that.
- Avoid being in the company of the other girl. Limit the time alone that your guy has with the competition. The more time he spends alone with her, the more likely the feelings will get developed.
- Be interested in your man. Give him the attention that he needs. He’s dating you now for a reason so he must like something about you. But keep in mind that you shouldn’t have to put out just to keep a man. If that’s all he wants from you, he’s not worth your time.
- Trust your mate, but keep an eye on the other girl. All women have a radar about who’s encroaching on their territory. If yours acts up, pay attention. If you notice your man frequently talking about this other girl or wanting to spend time with her, or finding ways to include her in your activities together, be warned. Trust your man when he says that he’s being faithful but don’t turn a blind eye to obvious signs.
- If the man you want to date is currently with someone else, have some respect for yourself and the relationship. Steer clear. Don’t make the moves. After all, if the man cheats on his current partner just to be with you, how do you know that he won’t do the same thing to you later on if he finds someone else more interesting? It’s just not good karma to sow seeds of discontent.
- Have some pride. If your man has lost interest in you and wants to move on, let him. It’s his loss. Unless you are married and you have children together, it’s better to cut your losses now than to endure heartache. Tell yourself that you deserve a man who will love and only choose you. You should be the priority and no other woman.
- If you really like the guy even though he’s interested in another girl, remember that you can’t always trust feelings. Emotions come and go and are often based on circumstances. Sometimes, you may end up idealizing the man but you may come to realize that he’s not all that great once he becomes yours. You may feel a deep passionate connection, but strong emotions like that may not always be accurate. Date other people and spend some time in the company of other friends and see how your feelings hold up. It may just be that you like the challenge of what’s unavailable to you.
Break up with him if he decides he wants to go with someone else. It’s just not worth your pride and self respect to hang around someone who doesn’t want you. You deserve someone better.
